Good afternoon, Sweeties and Happy Friday.
It is rather a mild day here in the holler I have been sitting outside on the swing watching the hummingbirds, stitching away and thinking.🤔
Come September will be my 6th anniversary on social media. I have met so many wonderful friends through IG and blogging I want to thank all of you who take time out of your busy day to spend it with me. Your kindness and support has truly been a blessing.
Here lately, I have been struggling . Ever so often I will get a comment that bothers me.
Just the other day a comment was left that was inappropriate based on the topic I was talking about and the emotions tied into the topic. I am sure some of you know what topic I was posting about- a sensitive subject and dear to my heart. I discussed it with Mr. Pinker . Should I get off social media or stay? We discussed this at some length. But I just don't know.
I will stew on it for awhile. I know other bloggers have stewed on the same question from time to time. Which ever direction I go, know that I appreciate and love ya'
Thank you for dropping by.
Happy stitching and quilting, y'all,
Melisa
"Life is sweet! "
Hugs and Stitches!!!🤗🧵❤
Dedicated to my dear sister, Amy. I love and miss you.
I am so sorry that you have had troubling comments. It really is so rude of readers, if you disagree, just stop reading, I'd say. When I started blogging Robin set it up for me to make all comments having to be approved by me before going on the blog. I personally haven't had rude or inappropriate ones but sometimes business ones try to sneak in, which I can stop.
ReplyDeleteI mostly don't read comments left on your blog, or others, because I find some of them so annoying. Recently I did read the comments left after you posted your healthy smoothie recipe, and one of those annoyed me. Your response was so much kinder than mine could ever be! LOL I admired your diplomatic skills :) I'm sorry you have received others that were upsetting for you. I think you have to have a tough exterior to post on social media. I hope you won't let these people keep you from sharing with the rest of us. Maybe there is a way to disallow comments.
ReplyDeleteI always enjoy your visits to my computer. I love reading about your quilts and hand quilting, the counted cross stitch projects and traveling with you on your vacations. If someone leaves a rude or snarky comment on my blog, I simply delete them. I won't waste my time arguing or commenting back to the. If they don't agree with what I say, that's their problem, not mine.
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't let one bad apple spoil the whole bunch,it is heartbreaking to get mean comments, my 1st blog was in 2000 & I had 100's of followers but google messed my password up so that was that for a while ,i recently this past yr started again & boy has things changed 😄right off the bat 2 unfollowed me 🤔maybe because I do more than quilts🤷 but I blog because I luv it, Im pretty sure your good followers outweigh the bad😄
ReplyDeleteMelisa, of course this is your decision to make. You are such a joyful, generous, full of life spirit. I hate the thought of anyone leaving a disturbing comment on this peaceful, friendly blog of yours. Selfishly on my part, I hope you continue your blog but if you decide to move on
ReplyDeleteI want you to know how much I have enjoyed your farm tours, your thrift store trips finds, your quilting and stitching. I have several of your freebies that I enjoy decorating with during the different seasons and I smile thinking of you as I display them. Your posts have left me happy on sad days, friendly on lonely days and inspired when creativity was lagging. Bless you dear lady.
This is exactly how I feel too! I look forward to her posts and check each morning because they are such an encouragement to me. Thank you for articulating those feelings so eloquently.
DeleteI agree with Maureen. You posts are happy, even joyful and I love them all! Please try to ignore thoughtless comments...though they may bother you, they are truly not worthy of your consideration. I've gotten slightly weird comments and sometimes ones that are kind of backhanded compliments, if you know what I mean. I try my best to ignore it. You can see Melisa, you have quite a happy following here....
DeleteIt is up to you to make your own decision, but Maureen has expressed how those of us who enjoy your blog feel. I know I enjoy your posts as I live in a rural area and get tired of people who have never ventured into rural living and do nothing but complain. It is not an easy path to follow, but with our crafts snd down-to-earth people like you it makes it much easier! Also, if people would slow down a little and enjoy life maybe they would not be so quick to judge. Thank you for all your work posting the good life!
DeleteEnjoy your blog very much. Please don’t let others take your joy. Enjoy the life you bring to us.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry, that you have trouble with some comments. I'm often here to read your blog and I hope you will not stop it. I like it very much, thank you.
ReplyDeleteI hope that you continue to post. I do enjoy each one. Your site is one of the first things I look for every morning with my coffee. You make my day. I’m sorry there is always one in every crowd. You are absolutely amazing!
ReplyDeleteI really enjoy and look forward to your blog! However, for myself other than a few blogs i check on I am off all other social media. It is just a lot of intrusion from outside stalkers just commenting on what I commented on or supported, etc. Not worth it for me. So I decided to go quietly. Good luck with your choice.
ReplyDeleteDear Melisa, I’m so sorry you’ve had to experience the unpleasant comment issue. You’ve always shared your stories, life, and patterns so joyously and freely. I hope that can continue. But you need to do what’s best for you and your own peace of mind.
ReplyDeleteBe well and stay well my friend, Becky (Bee)
I'm so sorry that happened to you, Melisa. Sometimes I think people don't realize how they sound when writing a comment. Sometimes I get weird comments, too - did you know that you can go into Blogger and delete them? You would be terribly missed if you stopped blogging, so I sure hope you won't. Hugs! 🥰
ReplyDeleteI agree with Diann. Your positive attitude and sharing of your talents and life would be very missed. Big hugs to you.
DeletePlease dont give up. I live in Australia and every time I turn on the computer, yours is the first thing I look at. I love your houses and have stitched almost every one as gifts. I havent read the post you are worried about but there are truely aweful people out there so just ignore them. Your blogs are so full of life and love. Keep up the great work, you are spreading happiness in a really bleak world.
ReplyDeletePlease don't stop blogging. I really look forward to reading about your adventures.I'm so sorry someone left mean comments. Remember that hurting people hurt people. You are a very sweet generous person that so many of us love and appreciate. Margie \TN
ReplyDeleteNo don't quite, too many people would miss your posts! Some people are just rude and yes it can be hard to shrug it off, I am sorry you had to deal with this. Please hang in there.
ReplyDeleteFirst I need/want to apologize for not seeing this post earlier. I would be so very, very sad if you decided to leave any or all aspects of social media. It's easy for some people to hide behind their computer screen and let the words spew all over the place. The problem is not you, my friend. I want you to know that what you write about is what so many truly enjoy. If the tires on my bike weren't flat I'd visit you to give you a huge HUG!!! I'm going to leave you with my favorite quote by Maya Anjelou "when people show you who they are, believe them". Big, Big Hugs, DarleneJ
ReplyDeleteLove your blog and all your posts! Don't let one person ruin your love of sharing your beautiful handmade projects. I would truly miss you! 💜
ReplyDeleteI read every one of your blog posts. I may not comment; but I so enjoy reading about your quilts and cross stitch...your thrift store finds and what's happening at the farm. You would be terribly missed if you decide to leave blogger. I am sorry that you had hurt feelings. FYI - I have made some of the cross stitch you share with us as well as some of the little quilts. Please stay.
ReplyDeleteHow can people be unkind to a blogger? It takes so much time and effort to put out a blog, and so many bloggers are just going to Instagram, not nearly so friendly. YOu mentioned how many friends you have made since you’ve blogged. Try to just focus on that and try to ‘consider the source’ when someone is hateful or ugly. Easier said than done, I’m sure! Carol in Texas
ReplyDeleteBonjour Mélissa , en France on dit : la bave du crapeau n'atteind pas la blanche colombe .
ReplyDeleteNe laisse pas un imbécile te faire douter sur tes choix de partage , tes articles. Tu apportes avec ton blog un immense plaisir à toutes et tous ceux qui lisent tes articles. Grace à toi et ton mari je visite une partie des Etats-Unis . Alors oui j'espére pouvoir te lire encore longtemps. Bon dimanche
Dear Melisa, I am so sorry that you have to go through this. Your blog makes the world a little better. Here I felt joy, love and something I would call "the old days"... a kind of heaven to come to when my heart is trubbeled about everything what is going on in the world. It's a gift you have and it is so appreciated by me and I think a lot of others too.
ReplyDeleteLiebe Melisa, auch für mich wäre es traurig, wenn du deinen Blog nicht weiterführen würdest. Jeden Morgen schaue ich, ob es etwas neues von dir zum Lesen / anschauen gibt und es versüßt mir den Tag.
ReplyDeleteIch kann mich allen anderen nur anschließen: Lesen und dann denken, was ist dies für ein armer Mensch. Natürlich beschäftigt es den Blogger und macht ihn traurig. Ich hoffe aber, dass all die positiven Kommentare einen schlechten aufwiegen werden.
Kürzlich habe ich gelesen, dass nur negative und böse Menschen schlecht im Netz schreiben, sie sind mit sich selber unzufrieden und gönnen anderen ihr Glück und ihre Zufriedenheit nicht.
Ich hoffe, du machst weiter und wirst meine Welt weiterhin mit schön gestalten.
Liebe Grüße und Umarmungen an dich sendet
Petra
My English isn't very good, but I hope I'm making my point clear.
ReplyDeletePlease don't give up your blog!
I'm so sorry you received inappropriate comments, Melisa!
You are a very polite and respectful person, and I can personally say that I always receive a lot of love from your comments on my blog.
I love visiting your blog, seeing your quilts, your embroidery, and the patterns you so generously share.
But I also enjoy taking a virtual tour of your farm, learning about your camping adventures, and those bargains you find on your walks with Mr. Pinker.
Oh, and of course, your delicious recipes! Please don't let anyone steal your joy or your sweet nature, my dear friend.
Big hugs from Spain.
I really hope you don't stop blogging. I've really enjoyed reading your post. I only found you about a year ago, but I've found real enjoyment in your cross stitch houses and have made many of them, thank you for your generosity, I love the quilts you share and it's nice to see what other quilters are doing (almost like we are quilting together). It brightens my day when I see your email and head right over to read your blog. I love your relationships that you freely share with us. May God bless your day and know that you will be missed if you decide to stop.
ReplyDeleteOh no Melisa, don't give up blogging. It is always such a pleasure to read your posts, see your beautiful quilting and stitching. That brightens the day!!
ReplyDeleteThose who write bad comments are brainless. They are unsatisfied and think how clever they are. B....!!!
You are such a generous person, so please don't let anyone steal your joy. Keep your head up high and remember all the persons who are with you.
Big hugs, Gabi
I send you big hugs
Don't let nasty people get to you, if you give up blogging they will have won. If you can't say anything nice, then keep your trap shut, that's my motto. Hugs from Northern Ireland.
ReplyDeleteI read and enjoy your blog so much, Melisa--please don't let the cruel people win and quit!!
ReplyDeleteThose "nasties" need to get a life!! ;((((
Use comment moderation in your settings and then just spam those suckers!!
Hugs, Julierose
I enjoy your blog so much! I hope you continue!
ReplyDeleteHi Melissa, I don't know comment, but I'm sorry your getting not so nice comments. Your blog, is one I check every morning, while I have my morning coffee. I go through my list of cross stitch ones daily. I love seeing what your working on and all your antique store finds and your camping. I've stitched some of your patterns and I love them. There's so many more I want to do. I hope you continue!
ReplyDeleteHere are my 2 cents on this! If you stop blogging, you are letting them win. People who leave nasty/hateful/mean-spirited comments are just so unhappy themselves that they need to bring others down or be hurtful to others. While it is more work for you, you can use the comment moderation thing and then delete those comments. There are more of us who enjoy reading your blog and viewing the pictures than there are of them. Thinking of you!
ReplyDeleteSweet Melisa, I really hope you decide to keep blogging! Your posts bring SO much joy to so many readers! I don’t understand why people have to make negative comments...if they don't like something they should just move on and not try to rain on everyone else's parade. When they do, that usually means they are unhappy with themselves or their own life. Their comments reflect THEM, not you. It says all about them and nothing about you or your wonderful posts.
ReplyDeleteI didn't see the comment but I'm sure you replied with kindness cause that's who you are. I used to have a Youtube channel and negative or mean comments brought me down too. But I just deleted them, cause you know what? It's MY channel and I can do what I want. And same goes for your blog. Delete any negativity, it's not needed here. For every one negative comment, you get hundreds of positive ones from people who appreciate you. Focus on THAT! 😊
Please, please stay! Your blog adds so much happiness to our lives. I admire all your creations and enjoy your writing style so much. 🥰
Lots of love, hugs and prayers for inner peace from Maine,
Alex 🤗🤗
Melissa I am so sorry someone left an unkind comment. You are one of the kindest people I know. I enjoy your blog so must. I look at it every morning. Love the camping trips, thrift finds,seeing all your stitching,the farm tours(Edna).You do what’s best for you. If you do stop blogging you will be truly missed.
ReplyDeleteGosh Melisa I hope it was not one of my comments that hurt your feelings, I've been looking back through your posts trying to remember.
ReplyDeletePersonally I would miss you terribly if you stop blogging. I love the photos of your animals, your farm, and your beautiful projects, but mostly I come for your sweetness and I always receive a blessing from your thoughts and it gives me a positive start to my day. Kind of like a devotional! :)
Last year an anonymous someone made a post of mine into a political post, even though I had not made any reference to politics, and informed me it was their last visit to my blog. It left a bad taste in my mouth, and I have really slowed down my blogging. Read through the comments on this post, and you can't help but see what a positive impact you have on so many folks! But it is that one comment that haunts us, right? I feel for you my friend, and whatever decision you make is the right one for you.
Finally (sorry so long) sometimes I miss things on your posts, and as I read back through your posts I saw where you had asked if we believe in signs, like those you receive from your beloved "Amo". I think I've told you before that I believe my mother gave me a sign the day she died. It helped get me through my grief. And yes she has given me signs since then! Isn't it wonderful!
Dear Melissa, your blog is my treat with my latte. It refreshes and fills me with ideas. I also multi- craft and wish I had access to thrifting like you do. Like others have said, delete the " keyboard commandos" and please carry on. Try not to give them a piece of your day at all.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry someone was rude to you. I love your blog, have done so many of your projects. I don’t have many blogs that I read and I always look forward to getting an email that you have posted. Please know you are respected and loved.
ReplyDeleteMelissa, sorry about the rude comment. I don’t usually comment on blogs but I do read your blog whenever you post. In fact, I look forward to it. You are such an upbeat person and an inspiration to me. It’s your decision but I do hope you continue. I’m always in awe of the quilts you make and find at thrift shops. Thanks for sharing your talent.
ReplyDeleteI read and ENJOY every single post from you. Your blog is full of goodness! I hope you don’t leave, but understand if you do. 😘
ReplyDeleteMelissa - I found your blog a little over a year ago and I LOVE your blog! I have only commented a few times but I do so love your cross stitch pieces you share and am so grateful and thankful of your kindness and willingness to share those. I have stitched and stitched and stitched so many and I am always working on your houses and stamps and holiday pieces. I keep a list of all of the houses and am getting close to finishing them all - I display them monthly and all of the stamps for holidays in a bowl on my dining table. I am currently working on Bee theme pieces and Sunflower pieces since I just made a sunflower banner and some beehive bowl fillers. I truly love to see your quilts because that is a desire I have and am trying to put together a quilt from the bedding all 3 of my granddaughters used after taking it apart. You have encouraged me to do this!! I am so sorry you were upset because you are an inspiration to all who follow you. I love looking at photos of your work, your gardens, your farm animals and all of your camping trips - your blog is one of the first things I look at each morning. Keep up the good work you do for all!! Thank you again for sharing and inspiring me for this last year or so - Carrie
ReplyDeleteDon’t quit. I love your blog and I read every post.
ReplyDeleteAs I told DS when he was learning to drive my stick-shift car and was having trouble taking off when a stoplight turned green and the car behind us started honking - "don't let the assholes win!" I don't normally read comments on blogs, so I'm blissfully unaware of what was written that has upset you. Your blog is one of my daily must-reads. I'd miss your cross stitch patterns, the doodles, the occasional recipe, the decorating posts, and travel & farm reports. In short - I'd miss YOU.
ReplyDeleteI am so very sorry that you have been burdened with insensitive, rude comments. I absolutely love your blog and enjoy every post. I’ve even referred back to them or saved specific ones, especially the cross stitch ones, so I don’t forget. I understand how one negative comment screams louder than all the rest. I’ve certainly focused on the one negative comment said about me to the exclusion of all the rest. It is miserable. I pray you’ll find peace and reassurance in the positive feedback in all these comments. You are a blessing to all of us!
ReplyDeleteSometimes people can be so hurtful and it is sad that you've had to deal with negative comments. Know that those of us who appreciate your generous and giving spirit will support you in your decision, whatever you decide. Sadly, sometimes the few can ruin a good thing for the many.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear that inappropriate comments have you thinking about discontinuing your blog. It’s such a joy to read and I am always amazed at your kindness, generosity, and energy. I am amazed at the inappropriate remarks people make on social media that are completely unnecessary. I will u derstand and respect whatever decision you make. Hugs!
ReplyDeletePlease don't give up. Your site is full of sunshine and makes me smile. keep going and don't let the negativity get to you. there are some out there that are just miserable people.
ReplyDeletegood morning Melisa.
ReplyDeletei love you - please don't leave me. i find your blog very inspiring. there is always one bad apple in the bunch. try and not let that comment bother you. some people are so unhappy with themselves that they try to bring other people down, too. i know life is hard and just find some forgiveness for that person and go about your day. you are a very special lady with a wonderful heart and soul.
now onto much more pleasant topics. my maters - oh my goodness - i have not found one single worm on my plants since i planted the basil in with the tomatoes. now i am very optimistic that the basil is helping. my cherokee purple mater plant even has a few flowers on it. maybe, just maybe, it will come back to me. i have my fingers crossed. how are your maters doing? i know that your zucchini is flourishing - yum, yum, yum!!! i don't recall if you said that you made zucchini bread. i love zucchini bread - nice and warm out of the oven slathered in butter - oh my, i think i am drooling.
praying that the weather has calmed down a little for you. it is so humid here. my husband has end stage COPD and the humidity knocks him for a loop. he doesn't do well at all. the oxygen concentrator is turned up another notch to try and give him some relief. i'm praying that the weather is much better for you sweet lady.
i better get to reading my second favorite blog: Jo's Country Junction and let you get back to your cross stitching and quilting. Jo is another inspirational lady. if you haven't read her blog give it a go. she'll get you smiling in no time. if i didn't have you to go to in the morning i'd be lost. you're the first blog i read. always a joy and the days you aren't there - i'm waiting (impatiently) for your next post.
blessings and love are coming your way Melisa. you're the best and never, ever, ever forget that.
Debra Broyles
quiltingprettyquilts@cox.net
I’m sorry someone left an inappropriate comment. You have to decide what is best for you. If you did leave I would miss you. I check your blog everyday. And I am stitching my way through your salt box houses. I absolutely ❤️ them. Hugs to you
ReplyDeleteI have had problems in the past posting, but it seems to have solved itself who knows how. I read all your post and enjoy your travel pics and your makes. Although I am not a quilter my mom was and I still enjoy her quilts on my bed. I have finished many of your cross stitch patterns and am working of finishing one more. I don't work very fast but I have a myriad of hobbies. I don't know how you accomplish so much in a week, kudos to you.
ReplyDelete....thank you for all you post
I hope you will stay. I really like your cross stitch patterns, I recently made a berry with one of your patterns. I hope you will receive a lot of positive comments.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry Melisa. I really enjoy your blog and visiting your farm, riding along on your camping journeys, seeing your projects, and all the gifts you give us. Don't let a few bad apples sour your taste for blogging world. There are hundreds more of us that love you and EVERYTHING you share with us. And, yes, I have had those same feelings at times. But I try to shake it off and move on. I know it's not always easy to do though. You are such a sweet and generous soul. Whatever you decide we will support you, though if you you give up SM, we will definitely miss you. Email me and give me your number privately if you want to talk. Sending big southern hugs to you! Love you, friend. B
ReplyDeleteYou do what,s best for you and remember there will always be someone with rude or hurtful comments, just forget about them and enjoy what your doing and if they don,t like it they should leave the blog. Your sweet and kind and we enjoy you !!!!!
ReplyDeleteMelisa, I think anniversaries are a time to reflect; however, I am sorry that a negative comment is a factor. Obviously you put a lot of yourself, your ideas, time and energy into your posts. Thoughtless comments are always difficult. Social media and even e-mails/text have changed the way we communicate which is sometimes without feeling and consideration for the interpretation of the words being posted. Dipolmatically, some people have a less positve outlook than others. My grandmother would say "Do let others rain on your parade". Like many have said, I also check your blog daily (sometimes multiple times daily LOL). I share your posts with my sister and daughter, so they enjoy your blog also
ReplyDeleteMelissa I am so sorry someone was unkind to you. You are one of the kindest people I know. I look forward to and read your blog every morning. I love the camping trips,thrift finds,your stitching and the farm tours. Especially Edna. You do what you need to do for yourself. If you leave you will truly be missed.
ReplyDeleteI really enjoy your blog. In 2022 my husband passed and you have been a blessing to me in my time of need. Please don't stop. I love all your post and creative ideas. I realize how much time this must take but know they are many of us who appreciate you and your creative spirit. Blessings to you and your family.
ReplyDeleteI have followed your blog for 5 years, but have only been able to post comments after getting a new phone. Your blog is fun, genuine, energetic, caring, creative, motivating, and more. I check daily and look forward to your posts. I have stitched many of you cross stitch and embroidery desings and plan to stitch them all. My daughter has started cross stitching some of your designs with me and my granddaughter is beginning to stitch one of your embroidery designs. I have saved your quilt patterns for the future - where do you find the time? I enjoy the visits around the farm and your travels. Your decorating and collections are so fun and inspirational. I truly enjoy your blog - thank you. I know you need to make a decision that is best for you. I want you to know that I appreciate you. Alicia
ReplyDeletePlease don't stop. I look you up everyday to see what you are doing. I love your patterns too! You are so talented.
ReplyDeleteOhhh--Dear Melisa--I can't see my life without your blog posts and your delightful patterns and all your lovely photos and stories--not to mention your hutches and all the changes to do to them--so please don't go stop---
ReplyDeleteI have lost so many blog friends when they have stopped blogging--I am going on at least 15 years with my site--I don't get alot of people reading mine--around 60 each month --with some posts being higher--but I only get 3-7 comments each post--but that is ok--I write it for few faithful ones and for my record of my life and to share things--
I have stopped reading some--even though I liked their posts--but they had just way too much advertising on each post and it was very hard to read the actual posts--and that was sad--I sure could use the money from doing ads on mine--but I will not do that--that is not what blogging is all about--opps did I just get off on a rant--sorry---
Please do what is right for --YOU--but I am hoping---
hugs, di
I found your blog in summer of 2020. I returned to crossstitching after stopping for a while. Please don't let those negative people affect your blogging. There are always those people out there. I look forward to your posts and designs and find your blog very uplifting and positive. I've stitched many of your designs and just love them all. Thank you for everything you do! I'm getting ready to take down my red, white and blue and put out my bee and farm stitches.
ReplyDelete"If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all". great advise from Thumper the rabbit in the movie, Bambi. obviously a childhood lesson forgotten.
ReplyDeleteMelissa, your are an amazing, creative, kind and generous person! Please don’t let one sour person’s unhappiness with themselves interfere with the joy and delight you bring to so many others! Remember that when something crazy like that happens, it’s not about you, it’s about something that happened it someone else’s life, and they’re taking it out on you because they lack the ability to reflect and change their own behavior. Can you block comments from that person? I look forward to your posts, all your quilting and cross stitching and don’t want to lose the connection I have with you!
ReplyDeleteFor someone to be unkind to one of the MOST KIND AND GENEROUS women I know, is just awful. I mean, really... what are people thinking? Where has the decency gone in the world. It is very hard putting yourself out there, Melisa--I struggle with each and every blog post because I'm naturally a very shy, retiring person who doesn't crave attention. I look at my blog as kind of a diary of my life, though, so I keep going. Not forever, though... You have to do what feels right for you. Sending you a big hug ♥
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